Fear of speaking is considered the number 1 fear – stronger than even fear of death. Maybe because so many people say, “I would rather die than give a speech.”
If you are afraid of public speaking, what exactly are you afraid of? If you are like most people, you would say – embarrassment. And indeed fear of embarrassment is the true king of all fears. Many people otherwise strong and courageous would rather die than face embarrassment and humiliation. But what if you learned to feel empowered rather than inferior when you step in front of an audience? What if you could see yourself as a mature, confident, resourceful human being who has an important message to share? What if you enjoyed being fully-expressed as an individual, professional and a spiritual being? How this would change your fear of speaking? In 2009 I started my journey of overcoming stuttering and fear of speaking. In fact I tried to face these two monsters before, ever since I was a child; however, I kept failing. What made my 2009 attempt so different? Two things. First, a new paradigm of stuttering developed by John Harrison, which opened my eyes to the importance of my beliefs, perceptions and intentions as key factors determining my speaking experience. Second, I was introduced to life-changing tools of NLP – Neuro-Linguistic Programming. I started my journey with severe blocking and intense fear of speaking. In just a few months my level of fluency skyrocketed. Below is the speech I gave about 5 months after beginning of NLP therapy.
Between 2009 and 2012, I have given a few dozen of speeches with increased confidence and flow. Finally, in 2012 I became the District 2 Toastmasters Humorous Speech Champion.